Collaborative Divorce, Day 3

Last week saw the third, and perhaps the final, session of mediation in my collaborative divorce proceedings. This one – all about the money. Assets, liabilities, pensions, RRSPs, monthly spendable-income, child support, spousal support, rules and guidelines and fairness and compromise. Whew! We had, in the wake of our previous session, managed to sort out [...]

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Collaborative Divorce, Day 2

Another session with the mediator, and things are progressing very, very well. Earlier this week my ex and I met to exchange financial information, ask questions etc. And that was a bit difficult – got intertwined with emotional stuff, different expectations in terms of how much detail we should bring, the process to follow etc. [...]

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Collaborative Divorce, Day 1

The past several months I’ve been having a very difficult relationship with my ex. We share a house together – her up, me down, our daughter bouncing between – and initially hoped we would be able to interact pretty well most of the time, and even build some ongoing family time together into our routines. [...]

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Doldrums

It’s been a few days since I’ve posted here. A combination of finding little I’m keen to share and a few days out of town. Summer planning and parenting/ separation logistics are taking alot of energy these days, and weighing heavily on me even when I’m not actively thinking about them. Scheduling is always a nightmare in [...]

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Year to Year

One year ago today, as I sat down for my birthday dinner in a Mexican fusion place that was all style and no flavour, I was aware with every bite and every word that something needed to change. We’d been in theapy for a long time, and the last several months of that had been [...]

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