xox

That’s a great, and honest, insight into self-sabotage – thanks for writing so lucidly about it.

And you’re right, it’s not the ‘I slept with another woman, hun!” stuff that does for us, it IS all the niggling times we bite our lip, or don’t listen (and support) properly out of an unresolved resentment, or – in my case – the small faults I find in my partner that mean she can’t be the one for me.

A good, promising relationship I was in last year ended after only a few great months – and it needn’t have due to these very reasons.

And I agree that it ain’t inevitable, but we seriously have to be AWARE that we have and always will have such self-sabotaging tendenices – otherwise we will be gonners! Awareness is key, and then hopefully we can take the right kinds of action.

I sent my love to C, too. Wish him wisdom and compassion and the acceptance he may need when his Mom’s relationship ends, if it hasn’t already.

Thanks again for sharing this – read every word of it (which is unusual, for me! lol)

Steve

PS I also wrote about self sabotage recently – not quite as well as you, I’ll admit – hence I found this blog post (courtesy of Google News alerts)